There is no way that in my lifetime I could ever produce these wonderfully heart-felt videos as ShonyaKay has. Nor could I ever write with words to convey the tragedies that were these children's lives as Shonya has through her videos. Ms. Shonya has a gift and to continue to try and explain them would be an injustice to her work.
Please veiw ShonyaKay's YouTube Channel at the link below. All of these children had someone who loved them and tried to stop their abuse. I have read up on all of these children and it's sad to say that neighbors had either seen or heard the abuse and turned a blind eye or a deaf ear to it thinking it was none of their business. It is up to us all to save a child. Police have stated numerous times that they would rather investigate a report of a child where abuse was mistaken than to come upon a scene such as Dominique Calhoun's.
Everyday I awake to another story of a child being brutally beaten or neglected by the very people who are supposed to take care of them. Not just parents, but authorities in CPS/DHS and in the family court system. I would like just one day for it to stop. Just.Stop. It's getting to be too much.
Here is her link: http://www.youtube.com/user/shonyakay
Thank you, Shonya. Thank you to all who read and then watch.
Troy
Showing posts with label Court Appointed Child Abuse. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Court Appointed Child Abuse. Show all posts
Friday, August 27, 2010
Tuesday, February 23, 2010
Breaking the Silence - Children's Stories
I came accross this website and program while talking with a follower of my Twitter page. Everytime that I say that stories such as Connie Bedwell's, Kaylee's and the others I have written about happen everyday; I always have a commentor telling me I am incorrect. I am not wrong.
These stories are not something I like to read about. I have to force myself to do so, because I know how horrific these children have either been abused or abused to death and after reading/watching it's hard for me to concentrate on anything else. I force myself to read/watch them in order for me to be educated on the affects of child abuse. I want to educate you, my readers, that we all have voices. We are all voices for these children and protective parents. Two voices are more powerful than 10,0000 voices in silence. The court system is allowing documented domestic violent abusers to gain custody of their children. This is apalling to me. It infuriates me. Just watch one video on Youtube in memorium of any child that has endured and ultimately lost their life to child abuse and tell me that WE have nothing to do with these situations. Watch Baby P's videos. Watch Kelsey Smith Briggs' videos. They are heart-breaking and traumatic. Educate yourselves, please.
Stand up and DO something for these families, especially for the children who are NOT being heard.
Thank you.
Troy
http://video.google.com/videoplay?docid=2994130110182503533#
http://www.batteredmotherscustodyconference.org/Media_Breaking_The_Silence_Childrens_Stories.htm
Please also view:
http://www.leadershipcouncil.org/1/pas/DVP.html
and
http://www.leadershipcouncil.org/1/pas/JCC.html
These stories are not something I like to read about. I have to force myself to do so, because I know how horrific these children have either been abused or abused to death and after reading/watching it's hard for me to concentrate on anything else. I force myself to read/watch them in order for me to be educated on the affects of child abuse. I want to educate you, my readers, that we all have voices. We are all voices for these children and protective parents. Two voices are more powerful than 10,0000 voices in silence. The court system is allowing documented domestic violent abusers to gain custody of their children. This is apalling to me. It infuriates me. Just watch one video on Youtube in memorium of any child that has endured and ultimately lost their life to child abuse and tell me that WE have nothing to do with these situations. Watch Baby P's videos. Watch Kelsey Smith Briggs' videos. They are heart-breaking and traumatic. Educate yourselves, please.
Stand up and DO something for these families, especially for the children who are NOT being heard.
Thank you.
Troy
http://video.google.com/videoplay?docid=2994130110182503533#
http://www.batteredmotherscustodyconference.org/Media_Breaking_The_Silence_Childrens_Stories.htm
Please also view:
http://www.leadershipcouncil.org/1/pas/DVP.html
and
http://www.leadershipcouncil.org/1/pas/JCC.html
Saturday, February 20, 2010
16 Year Old's Request Denied - Mother in JAIL"
Another protective mother is in jail because a judge will not listen to the cries of a child. The saddest part is that the child is 16 years old. He can speak. He knows what is right and wrong. What is a lie. The police saw the bruising his father inflicted, but sadly, the judge will not listen. Please read below and then go to the petition and sign it. Please be a voice, a voice that will be heard when said, "We are tired of court appointed child abuse!" If we all do not get involved, nothing will change.
"Sixteen-year old Casey has been denied his request to move away from his allegedly abusive father and move to his mother's house. His mother, Rondi Anderson, is threatened with jail time if he does not return.
Since being made case management judge in 2002 and following reports made by Ms. Anderson and her sons, ages 7 and 8, that the boys were being abused while in their father's care. Justice Darlene Acton made a ruling that the father of Casey and his younger brother should be awarded sole custody and that their mother, Rondi Anderson, should have no contact with her boys whatsoever.
Recently Casey was brought to his mother's residence when the police arrived after an assault on Casey by his father who had punched Casey in the face, kicked him in the head, and beaten him relentlessly. Once with his mother, Casey told her that this abuse was ongoing. He told Rondi that for years the boys had been told by their father and other relatives that she was an unfit mother. Casey reported his younger brother, his dad's new wife, and her five-year old daughter, were all victims of abuse by his father as well.
Casey told his mother that he had been drinking heavily and taking drugs since he was twelve years old. He also reported that he had been suspended from school twelve times in junior high for drug use, counterfeiting, and other behavioral issues. When Casey was returned to his mother, he had not been taken to the dentist since she had last taken him and his brother in May 2004. In 2002, Judge Acton had (upon the father's request) ordered that Rondi not be allowed to take the children to any doctor nor have access to school or school records.
Since Casey has been living with his mother, he has been attending school regularly and is currently on the honor roll. While maintaining his grades, Casey also holds down a part-time job at a nearby restaurant. Casey says that he now feels safe, happy, and loved. Yet, when Casey filed a motion asking the judge that he no longer be forced to live with his father, and asking that he be allowed to reside with his mother, the judge denied the motion and ordered that Casey be immediately returned to his father. Upon hearing of the judge's ruling, Casey contacted Social Services, who admitted that while they have enough proof that Casey's father is abusive, they cannot go against the judge. Child Protective Services has currently turned the case over to a supervisor.
Meanwhile, Casey's father's attorney called for a secret hearing on this coming Tuesday, February 23. It has been threatened, and is likely that, as in the past, Ms. Anderson will be jailed if she is unable to force her sixteen-year old son to return to his father. It is also possible that Casey may even be jailed as well. We are asking that the proper authorities open an investigation of this case and that Casey be allowed to reside with his mother while such an investigation is ongoing. It is unclear as to why, when legitimate concerns of abuse were raised by Rondi and her sons, that all of Ms. Anderson's parental rights were suddenly terminated. It is also unclear as to why, especially given the incidents surrounding and leading up to a sixteen-year old's return to his mother that his request be denied without question.
For years Ms. Anderson has exhausted her resources in fighting for the welfare of her sons, and now when one of the sons is of a reasonable age to decide where he would like to live, his desires are not even taken into consideration. We are asking that this young man be granted the right to choose where he wishes to live, and that the welfare of his younger brother who still remains in his father's care, be seriously investigated. We are asking that the opinions of Social Services be heavily weighed in this case, and that these inexcusable decisions made by Justice Darlene Acton over the past eight years, which have so dramatically affected the lives of these two boys, be seriously questioned. Also, that Judge Acton be held accountable for what appears to be a critical mishandling of justice and blatant abuse of her authority."
http://www.thepetitionsite.com/1/16-yr-olds-request-deniedmom-may-be-jailed
"Sixteen-year old Casey has been denied his request to move away from his allegedly abusive father and move to his mother's house. His mother, Rondi Anderson, is threatened with jail time if he does not return.
Since being made case management judge in 2002 and following reports made by Ms. Anderson and her sons, ages 7 and 8, that the boys were being abused while in their father's care. Justice Darlene Acton made a ruling that the father of Casey and his younger brother should be awarded sole custody and that their mother, Rondi Anderson, should have no contact with her boys whatsoever.
Recently Casey was brought to his mother's residence when the police arrived after an assault on Casey by his father who had punched Casey in the face, kicked him in the head, and beaten him relentlessly. Once with his mother, Casey told her that this abuse was ongoing. He told Rondi that for years the boys had been told by their father and other relatives that she was an unfit mother. Casey reported his younger brother, his dad's new wife, and her five-year old daughter, were all victims of abuse by his father as well.
Casey told his mother that he had been drinking heavily and taking drugs since he was twelve years old. He also reported that he had been suspended from school twelve times in junior high for drug use, counterfeiting, and other behavioral issues. When Casey was returned to his mother, he had not been taken to the dentist since she had last taken him and his brother in May 2004. In 2002, Judge Acton had (upon the father's request) ordered that Rondi not be allowed to take the children to any doctor nor have access to school or school records.
Since Casey has been living with his mother, he has been attending school regularly and is currently on the honor roll. While maintaining his grades, Casey also holds down a part-time job at a nearby restaurant. Casey says that he now feels safe, happy, and loved. Yet, when Casey filed a motion asking the judge that he no longer be forced to live with his father, and asking that he be allowed to reside with his mother, the judge denied the motion and ordered that Casey be immediately returned to his father. Upon hearing of the judge's ruling, Casey contacted Social Services, who admitted that while they have enough proof that Casey's father is abusive, they cannot go against the judge. Child Protective Services has currently turned the case over to a supervisor.
Meanwhile, Casey's father's attorney called for a secret hearing on this coming Tuesday, February 23. It has been threatened, and is likely that, as in the past, Ms. Anderson will be jailed if she is unable to force her sixteen-year old son to return to his father. It is also possible that Casey may even be jailed as well. We are asking that the proper authorities open an investigation of this case and that Casey be allowed to reside with his mother while such an investigation is ongoing. It is unclear as to why, when legitimate concerns of abuse were raised by Rondi and her sons, that all of Ms. Anderson's parental rights were suddenly terminated. It is also unclear as to why, especially given the incidents surrounding and leading up to a sixteen-year old's return to his mother that his request be denied without question.
For years Ms. Anderson has exhausted her resources in fighting for the welfare of her sons, and now when one of the sons is of a reasonable age to decide where he would like to live, his desires are not even taken into consideration. We are asking that this young man be granted the right to choose where he wishes to live, and that the welfare of his younger brother who still remains in his father's care, be seriously investigated. We are asking that the opinions of Social Services be heavily weighed in this case, and that these inexcusable decisions made by Justice Darlene Acton over the past eight years, which have so dramatically affected the lives of these two boys, be seriously questioned. Also, that Judge Acton be held accountable for what appears to be a critical mishandling of justice and blatant abuse of her authority."
http://www.thepetitionsite.com/1/16-yr-olds-request-deniedmom-may-be-jailed
Friday, February 19, 2010
“Mommy, I’m Not Gonna Tell The Truth Anymore” – Lora Brislin
“Mommy, I’m Not Gonna Tell The Truth Anymore” – Lora Brislin
Originally published: January 18, 2010 by troyofillinois
I am literally tired of seeing and hearing about case such as this. A little girl at the age of 5 has now decided to not speak the truth so she will not endure beatings from her father, her custodial parent.
I have copied this from a petition. Please read this. It’s tragic, it’s sad and it goes along with Connie’s story, Kaylee’s story and many others. How can we continue to turn a blind eye and say that this does not happen. Can there be this many “delusional” and “vindictive” women out there? I seriously doubt it.
“Lora Brislin is the mother of two daughters ages 6 and 4. Lora has not spoken to or seen her daughters since April of this year (2009). In May, Judge Phyllis Miller of Gwinnett County, Georgia, ordered that ALL custody and visitation be taken from Lora, and that the girls be in the sole custody of their abusive father and his wife.
Lora endured 5 years of physical and mental abuse at the hands of her former husband, the father of their 2 girls, during which time he repeatedly hit Lora as well as stalked, harassed, and verbally abused her.
This man also served a lengthy term in jail as a result of a history of criminal activity. In one of his previous marriages, not only did he also abuse his former wife , he abandoned his son and gave up his parental rights in exchange for not having to pay child support.
During his marriage to Lora the father wanted nothing to do with his two daughters. When Lora finally found the courage to leave her abuser in October of 2006, the father suddenly became adamant about fighting for equal visitation. Not only did he get visitation of these children, he began threatening to take custody away from Lora Brislin.
For two years Ms. Brislin has heard numerous pleas of help from her daughters who claim they are being sexually molested by both their father and his new wife and has tried to make the courts listen to her and her children. Instead, she has been laughed at by the courts, told she was making false allegations against their father, and was a menace to her children. Not only was the TRUTH spoken by the little girls discarded, their father was able to pay a high priced attorney to turn everything around on Lora and convince others that she was the one molesting her daughters. Lora’s eldest daughter was beaten so badly when she would tell the truth about what was being done to her that one day she said, “Mommy, I’m not going to tell the truth anymore”. Imagine a 5 year old choosing the lesser of two evils as a means of looking out for herself because a system put into place to protect her chose not to do so? On May 7, 2009 the father was awarded sole custody, and Lora was ordered to have no contact with her daughters whatsoever by a Judge who has since been disbarred.
Lora Brislin, along with the undersigned, is confused by this outrageous injustice by the court. Ms. Brislin is not the only loving and responsible mother who has had her children literally ripped from her arms and placed in the sole custody of abusers. We are asking that this case be reopened and investigated. We ask that this egregious injustice be dealt with, and that Lora and her daughters be reunited. AS IT STANDS RIGHT NOW THESE CHILDREN ARE NOT SAFE.
This grave misuse of power cannot be stood for! Clearly there is some other motive at work here. It is clear that something other than poor judgment on the part of a judge has caused this loving and protective mom to lose all contact with her children. No matter what that hidden agenda might be, if the court decision is allowed to stand, the Gwinnett County court system will be continuing to place these children in harm’s way and be punishing their mother for trying to protect them!
There are men and women all over the country, as well as all over the world, who are watching to see what is done about this horrific case of “court-sanctioned” abuse. We believe that if government officials do not intervene in cases like this in which a clear misuse of power has destroyed the lives of two young children and their mother, then the government should be seen as, not only negligent, but as condoning this outrageous behavior of judges who, seemingly, have to answer to no one!
Our family court system was supposed to have been put in place for the purpose of aiding families, and in cases where abuse is involved, supporting the protective parent, thereby ensuring the safety of innocent and defenseless children. In this case, however, it appears that the very system that was put into place for the purpose of protecting children is, instead, contributing to the traumatizing of these helpless victims. We, the undersigned, are standing together in an attempt to speak for these little ones who are not allowed to speak for themselves and, in order to prevent further destruction in their lives, we are asking that this case be revisited and that The Truth finally be brought into The Light so that justice can prevail!”
Please, stop accusing the protective parents. Stop protecting the abusers. These children are our future. Sign the petition, please.
http://www.thepetitionsite.com/1/reunite-lora-brislin-two-daughters
**I fixed the link.
Originally published: January 18, 2010 by troyofillinois
I am literally tired of seeing and hearing about case such as this. A little girl at the age of 5 has now decided to not speak the truth so she will not endure beatings from her father, her custodial parent.
I have copied this from a petition. Please read this. It’s tragic, it’s sad and it goes along with Connie’s story, Kaylee’s story and many others. How can we continue to turn a blind eye and say that this does not happen. Can there be this many “delusional” and “vindictive” women out there? I seriously doubt it.
“Lora Brislin is the mother of two daughters ages 6 and 4. Lora has not spoken to or seen her daughters since April of this year (2009). In May, Judge Phyllis Miller of Gwinnett County, Georgia, ordered that ALL custody and visitation be taken from Lora, and that the girls be in the sole custody of their abusive father and his wife.
Lora endured 5 years of physical and mental abuse at the hands of her former husband, the father of their 2 girls, during which time he repeatedly hit Lora as well as stalked, harassed, and verbally abused her.
This man also served a lengthy term in jail as a result of a history of criminal activity. In one of his previous marriages, not only did he also abuse his former wife , he abandoned his son and gave up his parental rights in exchange for not having to pay child support.
During his marriage to Lora the father wanted nothing to do with his two daughters. When Lora finally found the courage to leave her abuser in October of 2006, the father suddenly became adamant about fighting for equal visitation. Not only did he get visitation of these children, he began threatening to take custody away from Lora Brislin.
For two years Ms. Brislin has heard numerous pleas of help from her daughters who claim they are being sexually molested by both their father and his new wife and has tried to make the courts listen to her and her children. Instead, she has been laughed at by the courts, told she was making false allegations against their father, and was a menace to her children. Not only was the TRUTH spoken by the little girls discarded, their father was able to pay a high priced attorney to turn everything around on Lora and convince others that she was the one molesting her daughters. Lora’s eldest daughter was beaten so badly when she would tell the truth about what was being done to her that one day she said, “Mommy, I’m not going to tell the truth anymore”. Imagine a 5 year old choosing the lesser of two evils as a means of looking out for herself because a system put into place to protect her chose not to do so? On May 7, 2009 the father was awarded sole custody, and Lora was ordered to have no contact with her daughters whatsoever by a Judge who has since been disbarred.
Lora Brislin, along with the undersigned, is confused by this outrageous injustice by the court. Ms. Brislin is not the only loving and responsible mother who has had her children literally ripped from her arms and placed in the sole custody of abusers. We are asking that this case be reopened and investigated. We ask that this egregious injustice be dealt with, and that Lora and her daughters be reunited. AS IT STANDS RIGHT NOW THESE CHILDREN ARE NOT SAFE.
This grave misuse of power cannot be stood for! Clearly there is some other motive at work here. It is clear that something other than poor judgment on the part of a judge has caused this loving and protective mom to lose all contact with her children. No matter what that hidden agenda might be, if the court decision is allowed to stand, the Gwinnett County court system will be continuing to place these children in harm’s way and be punishing their mother for trying to protect them!
There are men and women all over the country, as well as all over the world, who are watching to see what is done about this horrific case of “court-sanctioned” abuse. We believe that if government officials do not intervene in cases like this in which a clear misuse of power has destroyed the lives of two young children and their mother, then the government should be seen as, not only negligent, but as condoning this outrageous behavior of judges who, seemingly, have to answer to no one!
Our family court system was supposed to have been put in place for the purpose of aiding families, and in cases where abuse is involved, supporting the protective parent, thereby ensuring the safety of innocent and defenseless children. In this case, however, it appears that the very system that was put into place for the purpose of protecting children is, instead, contributing to the traumatizing of these helpless victims. We, the undersigned, are standing together in an attempt to speak for these little ones who are not allowed to speak for themselves and, in order to prevent further destruction in their lives, we are asking that this case be revisited and that The Truth finally be brought into The Light so that justice can prevail!”
Please, stop accusing the protective parents. Stop protecting the abusers. These children are our future. Sign the petition, please.
http://www.thepetitionsite.com/1/reunite-lora-brislin-two-daughters
**I fixed the link.
Lorraine Tipton – Concerned and Protective Mother Jailed
Lorraine Tipton – Concerned and Protective Mother Jailed
Originally published: November 13, 2009
UPDATE: http://www.angelfury.wordpress.com/2009/11/16/lorraine-tipton-case-father-refuses-to-see-daughter-so-that-mother-will-remain-in-jail/
UPDATE 11/17/09: marmite_ Lorraine Tipton RELEASED from Jail ~ Bad news is her daughter is now with man who CPS CONFIRM molests & abuses her ~ Fight continues. Plz RT
For all of you who claim that a story such as Aaliyah’s is only about vindictive, delusional and angry ex-wives/girlfriends, please read this. It is a story about Lorraine Tipton and her 11 year old daughter. Lorraine has been jailed because her daughter refuses to go to visitations with her father. She will remain there until her daughter agrees to go. Not only is her father abusing her, but now the judge is making her choose between her mother and being abused. Please read, get angry and sign her petition. Be another voice for another child. Does any of this sound familiar?
“In 2003 my abuser forged my signature and had it notarized on a court stipulation giving him “50/50″ custody and all back child support dropped, this is a paternity case. The notary was his real estate/insurance agent. The only reason I found out about the forgery is that he tried to remove our daughter, Michaela from daycare and they contacted me immediately.
I filed a police report regarding the forgery, the DA, Jay Conley, he said that “even though we know who the likely suspect is there was no proof that my abuser, Craig Hensberger, did this”. Even though no one else would benefit from such an arrangement but the “likely suspect”. I got a handwriting analysis done on my own and presented that evidence to the DA, he stated that only “proved it was not my signature”, he refused to do anything.
I went to court in front of Family Court Commissioner, Frank Calvert, of Oconto County, who just happened to be the GAL on my divorce/custody proceedings in 1997 who recommended custody to my ex abusive husband, John Fetterly. It was also Mr. Calvert who made sure that in his recommendations that in order for me to have primary placement with my older three daughters I was to have a “stable living environment away from Craig Hensberger”. In 2003 Mr. Calvert moved up in ranks from lowly GAL to Family Court Commissioner and even with me expressing to him my concerns of his ability to be impartial I was ignored, chastised and intimidated by him. He refused to hear or see any evidence regarding the forgery and kept it as is, “50/50″ custody and ordered child support in the amount of $25 per week based on 50/50 custody even though the father had placement every other weekend.
The weekend of Fathers Day in June 2005 my daughter was in the custody and care of her father. On Saturday of that weekend he was arrested for his second DUI in less than a year with our daughter as a passenger in the middle of the day. At this time I had decided to move out of the state and per the county rules sent a certified letter to my former abuser to notify him of our move. He refused the certified letter and it was returned to me, although he was alerted that I was planning on moving and then filed an objection to my move. We again went in front of Frank Calvert who appointed GAL, Aaron Krzewinski. They ordered that my child stay in her current school but that Craig’s mother was to do all the transportation and supervision of placement. This was when my former abuser anger began to escalate and he vandalized three vehicles of mine which rendered them useless as well as loosening all the lug nuts on my tires which could of killed me as the tire fell off while traveling to work one morning.
Finally in October 2005, I moved in with my mother who lived well within the 150 mile radius I was allowed to move without notifying him. In December he served 20 days in jail for his DUI w/our daughter (the minimum is 30 days) and he also was allowed out on “Huber” so that he only had to report to jail at night when he was done working or not working. After he did his time he filed a motion to enforce placement when he was in jail for most of December. Again FCC Frank Calvert chastised me in court for not have legal representation and stated that if he could make me move back he would. He then gave my former abuser every weekend custody and ordered that I drive roundtrip every weekend because my abusers license was suspended. He stated that it wasn’t “his fault I moved, it was mine”. He also refused to review child support and the $25 weekly was upheld.
In August 2006 I moved back to Oconto County with my then fiancé’ soon to be husband, Chad Tipton. It was the Labor Day weekend and we were set to drive her for visitation with her father. My daughter stated that she was scared to go because her father was putting his finger in her “butt crack” down her pants, she made a motion of up and down. She made this revelation and stated how uncomfortable it was to her. I immediately contacted Marathon County CPS who interviewed my daughter. They did make a TPR and advised that Oconto would then handle it when we moved there after that weekend.
During the first weeks of September 2006 my daughter was met at her school by Oconto County CPS worker Carrie Silbernagel. After not hearing from Ms. Silbernagel I contacted her and she was very volatile towards me. Stating that she didn’t believe my daughter, that she believed she was “coached” and that she had children younger than my daughter who could provide specific details such as smells, times of days, etc. but my daughter did not. She stated that she knew of my “history with CPS” and reporting false allegations of sexual abuse. I asked her to explain as I had never made any other report to CPS regarding sexual abuse. She referred to another CPS worker that I had allegedly spoke to in 2004 regarding my older daughter. She made comments that she “knew ALL about me” etc. When I pointed out that my daughter is in danger as her fathers history of driving drunk. She then stated that “driving drunk with his child didn’t make him a bad father, he made a bad choice”. She refused to take any action and the matter was closed.
In May 2007 my former abuser decided to file for sole custody of our daughter as his behavior was to the point of madness since I was getting married on July 7, 2007. It was during this time that FCC Frank Calvert recused himself finally after I had filed a complaint against him with the Wisconsin Judicial Commission regarding his impartiality and biasness. By this time he was already facing charges of endangering safety with a dangerous weapon as he tried to run my then fiancé’ and 13 yo daughter in a grocery store parking lot one night as he waited outside for us. During that summer he was given every other week custody and they kept it that way until school started. Every bad behavior he gained more and more custody as the GAL was continually getting more money.
By January 2008, last minute he agreed to joint custody and dropped his sole custody claim. In February 2008 my daughter came home and said that her grandmother had forced fed her soup and then her vomit while threatening to beat “her ass” with a wooden spoon if she didn’t eat it. I contacted CPS and was told that the same CPS worker Carrie Silbernagel whose last name was now Burke as she married would contact me. After I told her of the force feeding incident she stated that she wanted to get down to the bottom of this “once and for all”. She suggested to take my daughter to a neutral third party who would interview her, I agreed. Although she only needed one parents permission she made the appointment at the Child Advocacy Center when it was the fathers placement time to avoid any of my ‘coaching’ etc.
On February 25 my daughter was picked up by Carrie Silbernagel Burke and had my child interviewed by Sara Schumacher who was a forensic interviewer for child abuse victims. The interview was recorded and transcribed. During the interview not only did my daughter tell of the soup incident but once again how her father sexually abused her. She told both Sara Schumacher and Carrie Silbernagel Burke that he father had instructed her to lie that day to them. By that afternoon I received a call from Carrie telling me that they were substantiating the abuse and placing my daughter with me. I thought that the nightmare was finally over. The CPS worker advised my husband and I that it would be a good idea if we left town for the night, get a hotel room as when she contact Craig he was extremely upset. She also advised that we should immediately file a child abuse restraining order for the TPR would not help protect my daughter very long. She explained that they would be filing a CHIPS (child in need of protection) petition and she would be in contact with us.
The next day I filed child abuse restraining orders against Craig and Betty Hensberger and it was granted by Oconto County Richard Delforge for 30 day pending the CHIPS petition. By March CPS was already back pedaling and we were advised by Carrie Burke that Corporation Counsel, Robert Mraz, stated that I was already “protecting my daughter in Family Court” when in fact there was no such order but only the one in which she was to go every other week. Then CPS offered for both parties to sign a stipulation agreement for “co-parenting” classes for both parents. They never even ordered any alcohol or drug assessment for Craig whose history of alcohol abuse was severe. My attorney at the time, Michael Perry, advised me not to agree to the stipulation and also my former abuser refused to sign.
Also in March he was acquitted of his charge of endangering safety with a dangerous weapon. Somehow my former abuser contacted my ex husband and had my older daughters recant their statements. When this was brought forward to the DA, Jay Conley of possible witness tampering, he stated it wasn’t because Craig only talked with my ex husband.
On May 21, 2008, my daughters 10th birthday, an Administrative Appeal was held by recused FCC Frank M. Calvert. My lawyer and I were not privy to this hearing in which my former abuser, his attorney, Corporation Counsel, Deputy Director of Oconto County CPS Greg Benesh and Carrie Burke were a part of. The only reason my attorney learned of this hearing was due to my abusers attorney, John D’Angelo, sending a copy of the hearing in which Mr. Calvert unsubstantiated the sexual abuse allegations. My attorney advised me to get the recording from the hearing and I did. What I heard was chilling as my character and credibility was more of an issue than the actual abuse. Especially in which Mr. Calvert snickers and makes fun of me that he’s “well aware of the difficulties with Ms. Fetterly-Tipton”. My lawyer instructs me to file a complaint with the judicial commission as Mr. Calvert had recused himself and he had no right to hear that case. When I requested the CD recording of the hearing Mr. Calvert’s assistant Julie Depouw stated that perhaps Calvert “forgot” he recused himself. A complaint was filed with the judicial commission regarding the ongoing bias and unethical practices of Frank M. Calvert.
In July 2008 my former abuser wanted his placement times back. We went to court and after my two witnesses testified, Sara Schumacher and Greg Benesh, Judge David Miron ordered a recess. My lawyer, my former abuser’s lawyer, GAL Krzewinski met in chambers. My lawyer returned to say that the judge was not going to hear any more testimony because so far we had not proven that there was any substantial change in circumstances for change in placement. He also stated that due to her father subpoenaing my daughters counselor, Jennifer Werner, her supervisor wrote to the judge to tell of his disdain that she was being ‘used’ as a pawn in this proceeding and she had no knowledge of the ongoing custody dispute (her counseling records do not reflect that). My lawyer stated I had to agree to two supervised visits, one overnight unsupervised, one weekend unsupervised then back to week on week off, providing that GAL Krzewinski and newly appointed counselor, Mike Mervilde, found no reason for that schedule, and they didn’t.
When I had tried to make further appointments with Mike Mervilde I was thwarted by saying that he was only court ordered to see her twice. When I requested copies of her counseling records I was told that my daughter wasn’t the patient, her father was.
By the very first unsupervised visit my daughter came back stating her father was drinking and driving with her. Every other week she was coming home from his home with lice. CPS said that wasn’t neglect. My daughter refused to go for visitation and in October her father filed his first of three contempt motions on me. I was found in contempt by Judge Miron and it was ordered that my daughter be forced to live with her abuser for five weeks straight, I was not allowed visitation. This was when I was first accused of PAS, a.k.a. ’brainwashing’ her. The judge stated that he believed that I had “poisoned” my daughter against her father. When I shook my head slightly the judge yelled at me to not shake my head at him.
She left on 10/31/09 and returned on 12/05/09. During that time she was tormented and tortured by her father and grandmother. My daughter still says that was the worst time of her life.
In February my daughter came home and said her father caught a 8lb Walleye and kept it alive in his 100 gallon fish tank for two weeks. He then proceeded to use her and sign her up for three different fishing derbies in one weekend with the same fish. He told my daughter if she told no one she would receive an ipod. The total of $150 of prize money that was won in my daughters name she never saw one penny or an ipod.
Her father was caught in his lying, cheating and stealing but blamed her for “ratting him out”. This was the turning point that my daughter lost any last respect for her father, she would ask me, “why would he do this to me?”, I had no answer, I still don’t.
She missed a weekend visit in March, by Monday he went to her school with the police to pick her up. She refused and the Gillett police officer, Gary Pemmrich, threatened my daughter that he would take her down to juvenile hall, she would be placed in foster care, she would never see me again and that she would have to go to a new school.
It was after this hat my former abuser brought me to court again for contempt, the judge did not find me in contempt and dismissed it. This was when Judge Miron made a threat that perhaps neither parent was fit and maybe he would put her in foster care.
He then changed the order that each parent could pick up the child directly from school rather than the police station as the drop off.
Shortly after she returned from her week placement stating how cold she was at her fathers, stating his electricity was “broken”. The next week it was the same, finally CPS was alerted that there was no electricity, running water/plumbing, refrigeration for food etc. They then began staying at his mothers small two bedroom home, my daughter was given a choice of either sleeping on the living room floor or the unfinished basement. By August my daughter had been frightened several times by her grandmother driving her drunk, specifically one occasion where they took her out with them to the bar and as the grandmother stumbled out of the bar she proceeded to get into the wrong vehicle and then drove them home, drunk.
My daughter asked to stay at my home on his weekend 8/7/09 due to her older sisters coming for a visit. She kept saying how relaxed she was, how well she slept in an actual bed in her own room. She called him and told him she would not return to his mothers house because she had no bed or bedroom there. By 8/12/09 he filed a motion of contempt on me but waited until last minute 9/18/09 to have me served. Due to the untimely notice it was dismissed, He soon filed another contempt. At no time after school started did he ever go to school to retrieve his daughter. In court on 10/14/09 he and his mother perjured themselves that she has her own room, I’m brainwashing her, they don’t drink. When asked why he didn’t go pick her up he would say he was “working” or he was “busy” but I was being held accountable. On 9/4/09 we drove up to the grandmothers house for my daughter to retrieve her clarinet. We requested the assistance of Oconto County Sheriffs Deputy Ryan Zahn, who happens to be the nephew of Craig Hensberger, grandson of Betty Hensberger. At no time did the grandmother attempt to keep my daughter at her residence, her father according to his testimony was working.
Judge Miron found me in contempt and ordered me 30 days in county jail, with it stayed and ordered that my daughter be picked up by her father on 10/16/09 after school. I was also found in contempt and ordered 30 days in county jail for claiming my daughter on my taxes even though he has an order to do so the IRS will not allow him to since he unlawfully claimed her from 1999-2007. Also because she lived with me exclusively from Feb 2008-August 2008 which the federal government agreed I could claim her. Judge Miron also made his threats again that maybe he would “contact CPS because neither one of us is a fit parent and maybe he should take he away from both of us”. He stated that maybe foster care was the best place for her.
Since the contempt motion being served on 9/18/09 my child has began sleep walking, having night terrors, and was placed on Xanax for her sleep disturbances and anxiety issues brought on by her father. She has stated she is not going with her father ever again, she can’t and won’t. She won’t be in school tomorrow due to her flu and is adamant that nobody can make her go, not even me.”
http://www.angelzfury.blogspot.com/2009/10/wisconsins-judge-david-miron-wants-mom.html
http://www.thepetitionsite.com/217/petition-for-lorraine-tipton-and-michaela
http://www.unicef.org/crc/
http://www.justice4mothers.wordpress.com/2009/11/14/drunken-abuser-craig-hensberger-tries-to-force-daughter-at-schoolhouse-door-to-go-with-him/
UPDATE: http://www.angelfury.wordpress.com/2009/11/16/lorraine-tipton-case-father-refuses-to-see-daughter-so-that-mother-will-remain-in-jail/
Please view all of the links, the last is frightening! This needs to stop. These children need for all of us to stand up for them. Stop the abuse by the parents and the judicial system.
Thank you for reading and for all you do.
Troy
Originally published: November 13, 2009
UPDATE: http://www.angelfury.wordpress.com/2009/11/16/lorraine-tipton-case-father-refuses-to-see-daughter-so-that-mother-will-remain-in-jail/
UPDATE 11/17/09: marmite_ Lorraine Tipton RELEASED from Jail ~ Bad news is her daughter is now with man who CPS CONFIRM molests & abuses her ~ Fight continues. Plz RT
For all of you who claim that a story such as Aaliyah’s is only about vindictive, delusional and angry ex-wives/girlfriends, please read this. It is a story about Lorraine Tipton and her 11 year old daughter. Lorraine has been jailed because her daughter refuses to go to visitations with her father. She will remain there until her daughter agrees to go. Not only is her father abusing her, but now the judge is making her choose between her mother and being abused. Please read, get angry and sign her petition. Be another voice for another child. Does any of this sound familiar?
“In 2003 my abuser forged my signature and had it notarized on a court stipulation giving him “50/50″ custody and all back child support dropped, this is a paternity case. The notary was his real estate/insurance agent. The only reason I found out about the forgery is that he tried to remove our daughter, Michaela from daycare and they contacted me immediately.
I filed a police report regarding the forgery, the DA, Jay Conley, he said that “even though we know who the likely suspect is there was no proof that my abuser, Craig Hensberger, did this”. Even though no one else would benefit from such an arrangement but the “likely suspect”. I got a handwriting analysis done on my own and presented that evidence to the DA, he stated that only “proved it was not my signature”, he refused to do anything.
I went to court in front of Family Court Commissioner, Frank Calvert, of Oconto County, who just happened to be the GAL on my divorce/custody proceedings in 1997 who recommended custody to my ex abusive husband, John Fetterly. It was also Mr. Calvert who made sure that in his recommendations that in order for me to have primary placement with my older three daughters I was to have a “stable living environment away from Craig Hensberger”. In 2003 Mr. Calvert moved up in ranks from lowly GAL to Family Court Commissioner and even with me expressing to him my concerns of his ability to be impartial I was ignored, chastised and intimidated by him. He refused to hear or see any evidence regarding the forgery and kept it as is, “50/50″ custody and ordered child support in the amount of $25 per week based on 50/50 custody even though the father had placement every other weekend.
The weekend of Fathers Day in June 2005 my daughter was in the custody and care of her father. On Saturday of that weekend he was arrested for his second DUI in less than a year with our daughter as a passenger in the middle of the day. At this time I had decided to move out of the state and per the county rules sent a certified letter to my former abuser to notify him of our move. He refused the certified letter and it was returned to me, although he was alerted that I was planning on moving and then filed an objection to my move. We again went in front of Frank Calvert who appointed GAL, Aaron Krzewinski. They ordered that my child stay in her current school but that Craig’s mother was to do all the transportation and supervision of placement. This was when my former abuser anger began to escalate and he vandalized three vehicles of mine which rendered them useless as well as loosening all the lug nuts on my tires which could of killed me as the tire fell off while traveling to work one morning.
Finally in October 2005, I moved in with my mother who lived well within the 150 mile radius I was allowed to move without notifying him. In December he served 20 days in jail for his DUI w/our daughter (the minimum is 30 days) and he also was allowed out on “Huber” so that he only had to report to jail at night when he was done working or not working. After he did his time he filed a motion to enforce placement when he was in jail for most of December. Again FCC Frank Calvert chastised me in court for not have legal representation and stated that if he could make me move back he would. He then gave my former abuser every weekend custody and ordered that I drive roundtrip every weekend because my abusers license was suspended. He stated that it wasn’t “his fault I moved, it was mine”. He also refused to review child support and the $25 weekly was upheld.
In August 2006 I moved back to Oconto County with my then fiancé’ soon to be husband, Chad Tipton. It was the Labor Day weekend and we were set to drive her for visitation with her father. My daughter stated that she was scared to go because her father was putting his finger in her “butt crack” down her pants, she made a motion of up and down. She made this revelation and stated how uncomfortable it was to her. I immediately contacted Marathon County CPS who interviewed my daughter. They did make a TPR and advised that Oconto would then handle it when we moved there after that weekend.
During the first weeks of September 2006 my daughter was met at her school by Oconto County CPS worker Carrie Silbernagel. After not hearing from Ms. Silbernagel I contacted her and she was very volatile towards me. Stating that she didn’t believe my daughter, that she believed she was “coached” and that she had children younger than my daughter who could provide specific details such as smells, times of days, etc. but my daughter did not. She stated that she knew of my “history with CPS” and reporting false allegations of sexual abuse. I asked her to explain as I had never made any other report to CPS regarding sexual abuse. She referred to another CPS worker that I had allegedly spoke to in 2004 regarding my older daughter. She made comments that she “knew ALL about me” etc. When I pointed out that my daughter is in danger as her fathers history of driving drunk. She then stated that “driving drunk with his child didn’t make him a bad father, he made a bad choice”. She refused to take any action and the matter was closed.
In May 2007 my former abuser decided to file for sole custody of our daughter as his behavior was to the point of madness since I was getting married on July 7, 2007. It was during this time that FCC Frank Calvert recused himself finally after I had filed a complaint against him with the Wisconsin Judicial Commission regarding his impartiality and biasness. By this time he was already facing charges of endangering safety with a dangerous weapon as he tried to run my then fiancé’ and 13 yo daughter in a grocery store parking lot one night as he waited outside for us. During that summer he was given every other week custody and they kept it that way until school started. Every bad behavior he gained more and more custody as the GAL was continually getting more money.
By January 2008, last minute he agreed to joint custody and dropped his sole custody claim. In February 2008 my daughter came home and said that her grandmother had forced fed her soup and then her vomit while threatening to beat “her ass” with a wooden spoon if she didn’t eat it. I contacted CPS and was told that the same CPS worker Carrie Silbernagel whose last name was now Burke as she married would contact me. After I told her of the force feeding incident she stated that she wanted to get down to the bottom of this “once and for all”. She suggested to take my daughter to a neutral third party who would interview her, I agreed. Although she only needed one parents permission she made the appointment at the Child Advocacy Center when it was the fathers placement time to avoid any of my ‘coaching’ etc.
On February 25 my daughter was picked up by Carrie Silbernagel Burke and had my child interviewed by Sara Schumacher who was a forensic interviewer for child abuse victims. The interview was recorded and transcribed. During the interview not only did my daughter tell of the soup incident but once again how her father sexually abused her. She told both Sara Schumacher and Carrie Silbernagel Burke that he father had instructed her to lie that day to them. By that afternoon I received a call from Carrie telling me that they were substantiating the abuse and placing my daughter with me. I thought that the nightmare was finally over. The CPS worker advised my husband and I that it would be a good idea if we left town for the night, get a hotel room as when she contact Craig he was extremely upset. She also advised that we should immediately file a child abuse restraining order for the TPR would not help protect my daughter very long. She explained that they would be filing a CHIPS (child in need of protection) petition and she would be in contact with us.
The next day I filed child abuse restraining orders against Craig and Betty Hensberger and it was granted by Oconto County Richard Delforge for 30 day pending the CHIPS petition. By March CPS was already back pedaling and we were advised by Carrie Burke that Corporation Counsel, Robert Mraz, stated that I was already “protecting my daughter in Family Court” when in fact there was no such order but only the one in which she was to go every other week. Then CPS offered for both parties to sign a stipulation agreement for “co-parenting” classes for both parents. They never even ordered any alcohol or drug assessment for Craig whose history of alcohol abuse was severe. My attorney at the time, Michael Perry, advised me not to agree to the stipulation and also my former abuser refused to sign.
Also in March he was acquitted of his charge of endangering safety with a dangerous weapon. Somehow my former abuser contacted my ex husband and had my older daughters recant their statements. When this was brought forward to the DA, Jay Conley of possible witness tampering, he stated it wasn’t because Craig only talked with my ex husband.
On May 21, 2008, my daughters 10th birthday, an Administrative Appeal was held by recused FCC Frank M. Calvert. My lawyer and I were not privy to this hearing in which my former abuser, his attorney, Corporation Counsel, Deputy Director of Oconto County CPS Greg Benesh and Carrie Burke were a part of. The only reason my attorney learned of this hearing was due to my abusers attorney, John D’Angelo, sending a copy of the hearing in which Mr. Calvert unsubstantiated the sexual abuse allegations. My attorney advised me to get the recording from the hearing and I did. What I heard was chilling as my character and credibility was more of an issue than the actual abuse. Especially in which Mr. Calvert snickers and makes fun of me that he’s “well aware of the difficulties with Ms. Fetterly-Tipton”. My lawyer instructs me to file a complaint with the judicial commission as Mr. Calvert had recused himself and he had no right to hear that case. When I requested the CD recording of the hearing Mr. Calvert’s assistant Julie Depouw stated that perhaps Calvert “forgot” he recused himself. A complaint was filed with the judicial commission regarding the ongoing bias and unethical practices of Frank M. Calvert.
In July 2008 my former abuser wanted his placement times back. We went to court and after my two witnesses testified, Sara Schumacher and Greg Benesh, Judge David Miron ordered a recess. My lawyer, my former abuser’s lawyer, GAL Krzewinski met in chambers. My lawyer returned to say that the judge was not going to hear any more testimony because so far we had not proven that there was any substantial change in circumstances for change in placement. He also stated that due to her father subpoenaing my daughters counselor, Jennifer Werner, her supervisor wrote to the judge to tell of his disdain that she was being ‘used’ as a pawn in this proceeding and she had no knowledge of the ongoing custody dispute (her counseling records do not reflect that). My lawyer stated I had to agree to two supervised visits, one overnight unsupervised, one weekend unsupervised then back to week on week off, providing that GAL Krzewinski and newly appointed counselor, Mike Mervilde, found no reason for that schedule, and they didn’t.
When I had tried to make further appointments with Mike Mervilde I was thwarted by saying that he was only court ordered to see her twice. When I requested copies of her counseling records I was told that my daughter wasn’t the patient, her father was.
By the very first unsupervised visit my daughter came back stating her father was drinking and driving with her. Every other week she was coming home from his home with lice. CPS said that wasn’t neglect. My daughter refused to go for visitation and in October her father filed his first of three contempt motions on me. I was found in contempt by Judge Miron and it was ordered that my daughter be forced to live with her abuser for five weeks straight, I was not allowed visitation. This was when I was first accused of PAS, a.k.a. ’brainwashing’ her. The judge stated that he believed that I had “poisoned” my daughter against her father. When I shook my head slightly the judge yelled at me to not shake my head at him.
She left on 10/31/09 and returned on 12/05/09. During that time she was tormented and tortured by her father and grandmother. My daughter still says that was the worst time of her life.
In February my daughter came home and said her father caught a 8lb Walleye and kept it alive in his 100 gallon fish tank for two weeks. He then proceeded to use her and sign her up for three different fishing derbies in one weekend with the same fish. He told my daughter if she told no one she would receive an ipod. The total of $150 of prize money that was won in my daughters name she never saw one penny or an ipod.
Her father was caught in his lying, cheating and stealing but blamed her for “ratting him out”. This was the turning point that my daughter lost any last respect for her father, she would ask me, “why would he do this to me?”, I had no answer, I still don’t.
She missed a weekend visit in March, by Monday he went to her school with the police to pick her up. She refused and the Gillett police officer, Gary Pemmrich, threatened my daughter that he would take her down to juvenile hall, she would be placed in foster care, she would never see me again and that she would have to go to a new school.
It was after this hat my former abuser brought me to court again for contempt, the judge did not find me in contempt and dismissed it. This was when Judge Miron made a threat that perhaps neither parent was fit and maybe he would put her in foster care.
He then changed the order that each parent could pick up the child directly from school rather than the police station as the drop off.
Shortly after she returned from her week placement stating how cold she was at her fathers, stating his electricity was “broken”. The next week it was the same, finally CPS was alerted that there was no electricity, running water/plumbing, refrigeration for food etc. They then began staying at his mothers small two bedroom home, my daughter was given a choice of either sleeping on the living room floor or the unfinished basement. By August my daughter had been frightened several times by her grandmother driving her drunk, specifically one occasion where they took her out with them to the bar and as the grandmother stumbled out of the bar she proceeded to get into the wrong vehicle and then drove them home, drunk.
My daughter asked to stay at my home on his weekend 8/7/09 due to her older sisters coming for a visit. She kept saying how relaxed she was, how well she slept in an actual bed in her own room. She called him and told him she would not return to his mothers house because she had no bed or bedroom there. By 8/12/09 he filed a motion of contempt on me but waited until last minute 9/18/09 to have me served. Due to the untimely notice it was dismissed, He soon filed another contempt. At no time after school started did he ever go to school to retrieve his daughter. In court on 10/14/09 he and his mother perjured themselves that she has her own room, I’m brainwashing her, they don’t drink. When asked why he didn’t go pick her up he would say he was “working” or he was “busy” but I was being held accountable. On 9/4/09 we drove up to the grandmothers house for my daughter to retrieve her clarinet. We requested the assistance of Oconto County Sheriffs Deputy Ryan Zahn, who happens to be the nephew of Craig Hensberger, grandson of Betty Hensberger. At no time did the grandmother attempt to keep my daughter at her residence, her father according to his testimony was working.
Judge Miron found me in contempt and ordered me 30 days in county jail, with it stayed and ordered that my daughter be picked up by her father on 10/16/09 after school. I was also found in contempt and ordered 30 days in county jail for claiming my daughter on my taxes even though he has an order to do so the IRS will not allow him to since he unlawfully claimed her from 1999-2007. Also because she lived with me exclusively from Feb 2008-August 2008 which the federal government agreed I could claim her. Judge Miron also made his threats again that maybe he would “contact CPS because neither one of us is a fit parent and maybe he should take he away from both of us”. He stated that maybe foster care was the best place for her.
Since the contempt motion being served on 9/18/09 my child has began sleep walking, having night terrors, and was placed on Xanax for her sleep disturbances and anxiety issues brought on by her father. She has stated she is not going with her father ever again, she can’t and won’t. She won’t be in school tomorrow due to her flu and is adamant that nobody can make her go, not even me.”
http://www.angelzfury.blogspot.com/2009/10/wisconsins-judge-david-miron-wants-mom.html
http://www.thepetitionsite.com/217/petition-for-lorraine-tipton-and-michaela
http://www.unicef.org/crc/
http://www.justice4mothers.wordpress.com/2009/11/14/drunken-abuser-craig-hensberger-tries-to-force-daughter-at-schoolhouse-door-to-go-with-him/
UPDATE: http://www.angelfury.wordpress.com/2009/11/16/lorraine-tipton-case-father-refuses-to-see-daughter-so-that-mother-will-remain-in-jail/
Please view all of the links, the last is frightening! This needs to stop. These children need for all of us to stand up for them. Stop the abuse by the parents and the judicial system.
Thank you for reading and for all you do.
Troy
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